Surrogacy, Three Years On

Tomorrow my twins will turn three years old.  As the months since they were born are starting to roll in to years, I’m feeling more removed from our surrogacy experience.  Life is moving on, and it’s only natural for me to feel reflective at this time of year. surrogacy wordcloud It’s felt good to share our journey and I am still actively following the progress of surrogacy in the UK and around the world.

Surrogacy seems to have become very normalised within the world of celebrity, and there have been many recent surro-birth announcements in the US, joining such luminaries as Sarah Jessica Parker, Robert DeNiro and Ricky Martin. Elton John and David Furnish had their second son in January 2013, Giuliana Rancic had her son in August 2012 and is reportedly trying for her second surrogate child, and let’s not forget Caprice who gave birth herself within weeks of welcoming her surrogate-born baby in August 2013.

Strangely, although there was much hype in the press around the time of our twin daughters’ birth, more recently surrogacy has become a relatively quiet topic.  Although some progress has been made to regulate surrogacy and create a fairer legal process, mostly change in the last few years has been minimal. Continue reading “Surrogacy, Three Years On” »

How Much Would YOU Pay To Be A Mother? Daily Mail ask…

We were asked to take part in this surrogacy article in the Daily Mail…but declined when we realised that its primary focus was on how much money people paid to become parents…when it comes to surrogacy, money is a very personal thing and reading the piece, I’m happy we stayed more private….

Daily Mail Article: How Much Would YOU Pay To Be A Mother?

Womb Transplant – Would You?

Doctors in the UK think that they may be only two years away from being able to perform a womb transplant, which may be preferred to surrogacy or adoption.  Whilst being a medical miracle on one hand, judging by the comments left on the Daily Mail website, this surgery is not a popular idea to everyone.  And as someone who has had more cause than most to ruminate on this very matter, I must admit that reading about it today has made me feel just the slightest bit queasy. Continue reading “Womb Transplant – Would You?” »

Surrogacy Book Review: Love Child – Our Surrogate Baby

By Rona Walker (Bloomsbury, 1990)

You can probably tell by the hair styles in the book jacket photo that these guys were some of the earlier UK pioneers of modern surrogacy!  Rona Walker (not her real name) was expecting her first baby when disaster struck – tragically her baby was born prematurely and did not survive, and she subsequently suffered a severe postpartum hemorrhage which led to a hysterectomy.  She and her husband were devastated, and it wasn’t long before she looked to surrogacy as a way to create their longed-for family.  Continue reading “Surrogacy Book Review: Love Child – Our Surrogate Baby” »

Surrogate mum’s ‘equal rights’

The debate continues in the UK…should the same maternity rights be awarded to women who become mothers through surrogacy as for women who become mothers naturally or through adoption?  Well, I for one can’t think of a single reason why on earth not.  Can you?

Shoshanna Berkley on ITV News

At the moment a mother through surrogacy is not entitled to any leave – paid or otherwise - until she has a parental order in place.  Then she is only entitled to 13 weeks unpaid parental leave.  Continue reading “Surrogate mum’s ‘equal rights’” »

British Birth Certificates for USA-born Surrogate Babies

usa british flagWell it took nearly a year, but our surrogate twins finally got their British Birth Certificates issued last week.  Unlike when a baby is born naturally, it isn’t simply a case of applying to the registrar and filling a in a form.  Continue reading “British Birth Certificates for USA-born Surrogate Babies” »

Surrogacy Maternity Leave Inequality

“If you and your husband, wife or partner are having a child through surrogacy you will not normally be eligible for statutory maternity or adoption leave. However you will be eligible for unpaid parental leave once you have got a parental order.” So says the DirectGov website advice on Maternity Leave.

Why?  There is clearly a level of discrimination taking place here.  Having a child, a baby, through whatever means…giving birth, adopting or with the help of a surrogate mother, should be considered equal upon the baby’s arrival and the family should be supported by Government policy. Continue reading “Surrogacy Maternity Leave Inequality” »

Legal Parents! Our Surrogacy UK Parental Order Granted

Family photo Parental Order at High Court
Feeling Happy! Outside the UK High Court after being granted our Parental Order

We are feeling so happy as today we became our children’s parents.  Sounds kind of strange, but until today my biological children, our little twins, were not considered legally our children because they were born with the help of a gestational surrogate.  British law recognises the surrogate mother as the legal mother, and if she is married or co-habiting, her husband or partner as the legal father.  No matter that we are the biological parents, or that when they were born in the USA we were issued US birth certificates for our babies which clearly name us as the only parents. Continue reading “Legal Parents! Our Surrogacy UK Parental Order Granted” »

International Surrogacy Conference in Aberdeen

There was a Hague Conference at the end of August at the University of Aberdeen to debate international convention on surrogacy, not dissimilar to the Child Abduction and Adoption conventions. There were practitioners and academics attending…I wonder if any surrogates or Intended Parents were actually there? I suspect people who have been through it on a personal level would have much to add to the debate – at the end of the day it’s about creating families and it can be hard to remove the emotive element when considering what to do to create international understanding. Continue reading “International Surrogacy Conference in Aberdeen” »