Surrogacy Book Review: Love Child – Our Surrogate Baby

By Rona Walker (Bloomsbury, 1990)

You can probably tell by the hair styles in the book jacket photo that these guys were some of the earlier UK pioneers of modern surrogacy!  Rona Walker (not her real name) was expecting her first baby when disaster struck – tragically her baby was born prematurely and did not survive, and she subsequently suffered a severe postpartum hemorrhage which led to a hysterectomy.  She and her husband were devastated, and it wasn’t long before she looked to surrogacy as a way to create their longed-for family.  Continue reading “Surrogacy Book Review: Love Child – Our Surrogate Baby” »

Surrogacy Maternity Leave Inequality

“If you and your husband, wife or partner are having a child through surrogacy you will not normally be eligible for statutory maternity or adoption leave. However you will be eligible for unpaid parental leave once you have got a parental order.” So says the DirectGov website advice on Maternity Leave.

Why?  There is clearly a level of discrimination taking place here.  Having a child, a baby, through whatever means…giving birth, adopting or with the help of a surrogate mother, should be considered equal upon the baby’s arrival and the family should be supported by Government policy. Continue reading “Surrogacy Maternity Leave Inequality” »

Legal Parents! Our Surrogacy UK Parental Order Granted

Family photo Parental Order at High Court
Feeling Happy! Outside the UK High Court after being granted our Parental Order

We are feeling so happy as today we became our children’s parents.  Sounds kind of strange, but until today my biological children, our little twins, were not considered legally our children because they were born with the help of a gestational surrogate.  British law recognises the surrogate mother as the legal mother, and if she is married or co-habiting, her husband or partner as the legal father.  No matter that we are the biological parents, or that when they were born in the USA we were issued US birth certificates for our babies which clearly name us as the only parents. Continue reading “Legal Parents! Our Surrogacy UK Parental Order Granted” »

Surrogates: I’m Pregnant With Their Baby

BBC1 – I’m Pregnant with Their Baby (A surrogate story, aired August 2011)

Interesting look at 3 British surrogates, and it seemed to me to be quite a balanced view.  Very brave of everyone to take part, showing the process warts and all.  I know from our experience that we felt incredibly private throughout the process and would not have been comfortable being so public about our surrogacy experience at the time.  I take my hat off to them.  Ultimately this kind of program increases awareness of surrogacy and helps people understand what motivates people to do become surrogate mothers.  It won’t be too many years from now that the UK is more desensitised to surrogacy as a way of creating longed-for families and it becomes more common, like IVF did some years ago (well, maybe not quite that common, but you get my drift).

Surrogacy: going public…

Surrogacy. Some people look at you strangely, not quite understanding the word’s meaning. And fair enough. It’s not every day you meet a woman who has a biological child carried through gestation by a surrogate mother and handed to her at birth. But then maybe you have never met someone who couldn’t carry their own baby and had the determination, drive and imagination to make the dream of having a biological child through surrogacy a reality. Or maybe you are that person too, with those same dreams? Continue reading “Surrogacy: going public…” »