Surrogacy Book Review: Love Child – Our Surrogate Baby

By Rona Walker (Bloomsbury, 1990)

You can probably tell by the hair styles in the book jacket photo that these guys were some of the earlier UK pioneers of modern surrogacy!  Rona Walker (not her real name) was expecting her first baby when disaster struck – tragically her baby was born prematurely and did not survive, and she subsequently suffered a severe postpartum hemorrhage which led to a hysterectomy.  She and her husband were devastated, and it wasn’t long before she looked to surrogacy as a way to create their longed-for family.  Continue reading “Surrogacy Book Review: Love Child – Our Surrogate Baby” »

Surrogacy Maternity Leave Inequality

“If you and your husband, wife or partner are having a child through surrogacy you will not normally be eligible for statutory maternity or adoption leave. However you will be eligible for unpaid parental leave once you have got a parental order.” So says the DirectGov website advice on Maternity Leave.

Why?  There is clearly a level of discrimination taking place here.  Having a child, a baby, through whatever means…giving birth, adopting or with the help of a surrogate mother, should be considered equal upon the baby’s arrival and the family should be supported by Government policy. Continue reading “Surrogacy Maternity Leave Inequality” »

Couple who used Indian surrogates can bring children up as their own rules judge

Couple who used Indian surrogates can bring children up as their own rules judge – Telegraph

Childless couple allowed to keep babies born through Indian surrogate – Telegraph

In summary, a British couple paid Indian surrogates to give birth to their children and have just been granted parental orders in the British High Court.

Once in a while these stories appear in the national press, but interestingly parental orders are issued to UK parents of international surrogate babies much more often than is reported.  At our first hearing in the High Court we were one of three couples appearing that day requesting parental orders!

However, this is the first time I am aware of where a surrogacy arrangement in India has been publicly granted a parental order.  The Judge, in this case Sir Nicholas Wall, has to feel confident that the amount paid would not ’overbear the will of the surrogate’, and this can be more questionable in India due to the low average earnings.

Nonetheless, parental orders have been duly granted and above all, the welfare of the children was again considered paramount in an echo of similar cases where Justice Hedley has published similar outcomes.  All good news for British couples looking in to international surrogacy to overcome infertility.

 

Surrogates: I’m Pregnant With Their Baby

BBC1 – I’m Pregnant with Their Baby (A surrogate story, aired August 2011)

Interesting look at 3 British surrogates, and it seemed to me to be quite a balanced view.  Very brave of everyone to take part, showing the process warts and all.  I know from our experience that we felt incredibly private throughout the process and would not have been comfortable being so public about our surrogacy experience at the time.  I take my hat off to them.  Ultimately this kind of program increases awareness of surrogacy and helps people understand what motivates people to do become surrogate mothers.  It won’t be too many years from now that the UK is more desensitised to surrogacy as a way of creating longed-for families and it becomes more common, like IVF did some years ago (well, maybe not quite that common, but you get my drift).

37 and living it

Aside

Becoming infertile at 29 years old, I worried that I’d never complete my family.  I felt very alienated from my peers, all seemingly pregnant one after another.  But here I am on my 37th birthday with the family I’ve always dreamed of.  It’s been a long road, but I feel back on track and immensely proud of us all.

Surrogacy: going public…

Surrogacy. Some people look at you strangely, not quite understanding the word’s meaning. And fair enough. It’s not every day you meet a woman who has a biological child carried through gestation by a surrogate mother and handed to her at birth. But then maybe you have never met someone who couldn’t carry their own baby and had the determination, drive and imagination to make the dream of having a biological child through surrogacy a reality. Or maybe you are that person too, with those same dreams? Continue reading “Surrogacy: going public…” »