Surrogacy Book Review: The Gift of Surrogacy – Will and Hope have a Baby

Will and Hope Have a Baby: The Gift of Surrogacy By Irene Celcer (Graphite Press, 2007)

This book forms part of collection of stories for children born via extraordinary reproductive circumstance and also includes sperm and egg donation editions.  I agree with the author, a mental health professional, that children born through assisted reproduction should benefit from their parents being upfront about their beginnings.  They have a right to know, and it is our duty as loving parents to ensure that the messages they receive are both truthful and age-appropriate.  We would like our twins born via surrogacy to be proud of the efforts so many people made to bring them in to the world, and to know how wanted and cherished they are.  Continue reading “Surrogacy Book Review: The Gift of Surrogacy – Will and Hope have a Baby” »

Surrogacy Maternity Leave Inequality

“If you and your husband, wife or partner are having a child through surrogacy you will not normally be eligible for statutory maternity or adoption leave. However you will be eligible for unpaid parental leave once you have got a parental order.” So says the DirectGov website advice on Maternity Leave.

Why?  There is clearly a level of discrimination taking place here.  Having a child, a baby, through whatever means…giving birth, adopting or with the help of a surrogate mother, should be considered equal upon the baby’s arrival and the family should be supported by Government policy. Continue reading “Surrogacy Maternity Leave Inequality” »

Surrogacy Book Review: The Kangaroo Pouch

A story about surrogacy for young childrenThe Kangaroo Pouch: A story about surrogacy for young children by Sarah Phillips Pellet

Surrogacy is a pretty complex area to get your head around, and it’s especially challenging to explain surrogacy to children.  How do you educate your children when you are acting as a surrogate, when you are the intended parents of a surrogate baby, or indeed when trying to explain the unique circumstances of your child’s birth story when they themselves were delivered by a surrogate mother?  Continue reading “Surrogacy Book Review: The Kangaroo Pouch” »

Legal Parents! Our Surrogacy UK Parental Order Granted

Family photo Parental Order at High Court
Feeling Happy! Outside the UK High Court after being granted our Parental Order

We are feeling so happy as today we became our children’s parents.  Sounds kind of strange, but until today my biological children, our little twins, were not considered legally our children because they were born with the help of a gestational surrogate.  British law recognises the surrogate mother as the legal mother, and if she is married or co-habiting, her husband or partner as the legal father.  No matter that we are the biological parents, or that when they were born in the USA we were issued US birth certificates for our babies which clearly name us as the only parents. Continue reading “Legal Parents! Our Surrogacy UK Parental Order Granted” »