Surrogacy Book Review: Love Child – Our Surrogate Baby

By Rona Walker (Bloomsbury, 1990)

You can probably tell by the hair styles in the book jacket photo that these guys were some of the earlier UK pioneers of modern surrogacy!  Rona Walker (not her real name) was expecting her first baby when disaster struck – tragically her baby was born prematurely and did not survive, and she subsequently suffered a severe postpartum hemorrhage which led to a hysterectomy.  She and her husband were devastated, and it wasn’t long before she looked to surrogacy as a way to create their longed-for family.  Continue reading “Surrogacy Book Review: Love Child – Our Surrogate Baby” »

Surrogate mum’s ‘equal rights’

The debate continues in the UK…should the same maternity rights be awarded to women who become mothers through surrogacy as for women who become mothers naturally or through adoption?  Well, I for one can’t think of a single reason why on earth not.  Can you?

Shoshanna Berkley on ITV News

At the moment a mother through surrogacy is not entitled to any leave – paid or otherwise - until she has a parental order in place.  Then she is only entitled to 13 weeks unpaid parental leave.  Continue reading “Surrogate mum’s ‘equal rights’” »

Surrogacy ‘Trend’ For Celebrities

Elton John did it.  So did Nicole Kidman and Sarah Jessica Parker.  Ricky Martin did it ages ago, and Elizabeth Banks has just done it.  Even Robert De Niro did it – twice. As for Beyoncé, did she or didn’t she?

Funny that surrogacy has become such a ‘celebrity trend’ these days.  The attention celebrity surrogacy receives is, however, a double-edged sort for us ordinary folk who have surrogate babies.  Continue reading “Surrogacy ‘Trend’ For Celebrities” »

Surrogacy Maternity Leave Tribunal

Definitely some winds of change taking place on surrogacy in the UK.  Finally someone has put their head above the parapet and demanded equal rights as a new mother to maternity leave.  A Newcastle Employment tribunal has referred the case to the European Court of Justice in order to consider whether a mother through surrogacy has a right to paid maternity leave to bond with her baby, establish breast-feeding and develop her family life.  The claimant feels that the law should encompass new mothers and not just gestational mothers, and given that she looked after the baby from an hour old and breast-fed for three months, many would think it was hard to disagree. Continue reading “Surrogacy Maternity Leave Tribunal” »

British Birth Certificates for USA-born Surrogate Babies

usa british flagWell it took nearly a year, but our surrogate twins finally got their British Birth Certificates issued last week.  Unlike when a baby is born naturally, it isn’t simply a case of applying to the registrar and filling a in a form.  Continue reading “British Birth Certificates for USA-born Surrogate Babies” »

Surrogacy Book Review: The Gift of Surrogacy – Will and Hope have a Baby

Will and Hope Have a Baby: The Gift of Surrogacy By Irene Celcer (Graphite Press, 2007)

This book forms part of collection of stories for children born via extraordinary reproductive circumstance and also includes sperm and egg donation editions.  I agree with the author, a mental health professional, that children born through assisted reproduction should benefit from their parents being upfront about their beginnings.  They have a right to know, and it is our duty as loving parents to ensure that the messages they receive are both truthful and age-appropriate.  We would like our twins born via surrogacy to be proud of the efforts so many people made to bring them in to the world, and to know how wanted and cherished they are.  Continue reading “Surrogacy Book Review: The Gift of Surrogacy – Will and Hope have a Baby” »

Surrogacy Maternity Leave Inequality

“If you and your husband, wife or partner are having a child through surrogacy you will not normally be eligible for statutory maternity or adoption leave. However you will be eligible for unpaid parental leave once you have got a parental order.” So says the DirectGov website advice on Maternity Leave.

Why?  There is clearly a level of discrimination taking place here.  Having a child, a baby, through whatever means…giving birth, adopting or with the help of a surrogate mother, should be considered equal upon the baby’s arrival and the family should be supported by Government policy. Continue reading “Surrogacy Maternity Leave Inequality” »

Surrogacy Book Review: The Kangaroo Pouch

A story about surrogacy for young childrenThe Kangaroo Pouch: A story about surrogacy for young children by Sarah Phillips Pellet

Surrogacy is a pretty complex area to get your head around, and it’s especially challenging to explain surrogacy to children.  How do you educate your children when you are acting as a surrogate, when you are the intended parents of a surrogate baby, or indeed when trying to explain the unique circumstances of your child’s birth story when they themselves were delivered by a surrogate mother?  Continue reading “Surrogacy Book Review: The Kangaroo Pouch” »

Legal Parents! Our Surrogacy UK Parental Order Granted

Family photo Parental Order at High Court
Feeling Happy! Outside the UK High Court after being granted our Parental Order

We are feeling so happy as today we became our children’s parents.  Sounds kind of strange, but until today my biological children, our little twins, were not considered legally our children because they were born with the help of a gestational surrogate.  British law recognises the surrogate mother as the legal mother, and if she is married or co-habiting, her husband or partner as the legal father.  No matter that we are the biological parents, or that when they were born in the USA we were issued US birth certificates for our babies which clearly name us as the only parents. Continue reading “Legal Parents! Our Surrogacy UK Parental Order Granted” »

Couple who used Indian surrogates can bring children up as their own rules judge

Couple who used Indian surrogates can bring children up as their own rules judge – Telegraph

Childless couple allowed to keep babies born through Indian surrogate – Telegraph

In summary, a British couple paid Indian surrogates to give birth to their children and have just been granted parental orders in the British High Court.

Once in a while these stories appear in the national press, but interestingly parental orders are issued to UK parents of international surrogate babies much more often than is reported.  At our first hearing in the High Court we were one of three couples appearing that day requesting parental orders!

However, this is the first time I am aware of where a surrogacy arrangement in India has been publicly granted a parental order.  The Judge, in this case Sir Nicholas Wall, has to feel confident that the amount paid would not ’overbear the will of the surrogate’, and this can be more questionable in India due to the low average earnings.

Nonetheless, parental orders have been duly granted and above all, the welfare of the children was again considered paramount in an echo of similar cases where Justice Hedley has published similar outcomes.  All good news for British couples looking in to international surrogacy to overcome infertility.